"Ah, Do not Honey, There's Little!"

Intimate in front of the child is okay, if not impressed erotic ....

Intimacy is not just belong to the new bride. Couples who have married one year still need warm and loving (read tender). Because, romance is like an oasis in the desert that can keep your relationship and your partner stay fresh though faced with a stack load of everyday life.

Problem affection can be done in various ways. Each couple would have their own traditions. The most common is a kiss on the cheek or forehead, embracing, hugging, clinging to the shoulders, laid his hand on the arm while watching TV, or just rubbing her back. Calling partner with distinctive titles like "The" or "Love" can also keep fertilizing the seeds of romance. No need to be shy or prestige dong! It is precisely with such an attitude, the couple so happy and more friendly atmosphere and warm.

Unnecessary vulgarity

What if to intimate-romance but there is little one? Actually, no problem. Precisely so children learn how to express affection for the father-mother and other family members. Through the intimate atmosphere, children also learn to understand the warmth of love from his parents' married life.

Only indeed, there are signs that need to be obeyed. What is certain not to love this phrase reflects the passion that was rising. For example, did not realize you and your partner's lips to kiss or be impressed erotic scenes your bed and the couple discovered the child.

The impact of witnessing intimate-romance a little too much for hardly a lightweight. For example, children can think kissing lips (the hot ones) is a common thing done anywhere and with anyone. It is not possible, this tender scene tape might be on his friends without shame and guilt. Or in the case of a more vulgar, you're caught having sex with a partner. There is a possibility in the minds of children formed perceptions. "It could be, he has hurt Mother!"

This perception was taken because in his mind, his father had been "aggressive" and hurt her mother. The effect, he could be angry at her father. Or the child always felt uncomfortable when her parents appeared together or tenderness, romance, although just a hug.

Give explanation

What to do when the child was caught intimate scenes? For children who have developed verbal abilities, preschool or school age, he could have asked about the scene he saw it. No need gelagapan. Try to find out what she had in mind. For example the back asked, "What do you see?" Or, "The Father-Mother you did was what?"

It may be, throw the question can not be answered the child. Or he himself did not know how to answer. Well, then give an explanation for example, "That's a sign of the father and mother love each other." For school-age children, needed further explanation, for example, "It should only be done by people who are married, like my father and mother. The marriage between my father and my mother done because of the mutual affection. Well, what do you see it, one how he shows affection for my mother. " So to speak. So, in addition to straighten out the negative perception, it was once given to the child's sex education.

Sex education is supposed to be adjusted to the age of child development. When children have to understand gender differences, introduce it on reproduction equipment. Do not use words metaphors like "bird" for the male genitals. It would be better if we give the correct title. Another example, the mothers have to share stories about his personal experiences to the upik, including when he first got my period and how he feels. In short, whatever the child wants to know about sex, must be answered to properly fulfilled his curiosity.

Another small thing that is not less important, intimately related to this romance, child's bedroom should be and you are separated. Also teach the child to first knock on the door every parent will enter the room. Do not forget to lock the door when he wanted to be alone with the two couples. In essence, there needs to be careful before you establish a courtship that involves sexual arousal.



Source: Kompas Health